A note to the psycho-therapist,
sexologist, sex-therapist and other know-it-alls reading this: Can't you just make it clear to these guys who are troubled by the size of their penis, that women are human beings also, meaning
that when they are sexually excited they want to be penetrated by a penis, preferably a rather large
one, just like a man wants a warm, juicy and tight vagina around his penis. It's sex after all; wild sensations in case you never had any.
It is a
tragic mistake to belittle men's concern about penis size by
blaming it on their immatureness or on the misrepresentation of men
and women in pornographic material. It is also a tragic mistake to
say such penis size concerns are groundless and relate purely to self-esteem problems.
Self-esteem surely is a factor in this issue but it is not the cause
of their worries.
I
am not sure if your denial of the existence of vaginal orgasms and
women's penis size preference is a result of your ignorance or a
result of your shameful adherence to political correctness. Either
way it creates a serious stain on your profession as counselors.
Do you really believe that these people asking you questions can't see you are hiding something from them? They are not helped by being treated
as brainless children who shouldn't understand what is going on. But then again,
maybe your intentions are not really to help them to begin with?
Could it be that you are simply hoping to establish a new client
base and securing your existing one?
However, if your intentions
are sincere, and if the only reason
why you advice men that penis size doesn't matter to women is that "What you don't know can't hurt you", then
you should know that your theory is not working. Men all around the world are continuously suffering because of this.
It is doubtful that there are any men who truly believe that size doesn't matter at all. Even if
a man is never told that size matters, instinctively he knows more than he is taught to know.
And most men who are small already know so or at least suspect it.
They have a good idea that they might not really measure up or might
not be adequate for most women to cause vaginal orgasm. They don't
need some salving nursery rhymes or misleading information to feel
better. They want and need to know the truth. A therapist or expert
who gives them comfort by feeding them soothing but false
information is causing more harm in the end than the truth could
ever do. You can't change the facts by denying them. Sure, they
might feel some temporarily relief, only to fall back into
greater desperation than before when they are faced with daily
reality again. As psychologists you should know better than anyone
that such is the way men with a low body-image
syndrome will react to momentary-only relief.
This doesn't
mean that
such information should be made available to underage people. I am not in the position to say what pre-adults should know or not know.
That is entirely up to their parents or caretakers. However, one day
when adult, these young people are bound to find out, either through
basic logic or, worse, through humiliation by their peers or by
their partners. It is then that they deserve to know what is really
going on and why things are as they are. As
adults all men have the right to know. Adult men can
handle this subject, as long as nobody keeps on messing with their
mind. It is not right that the only information adults receive are
confusing comments like "Size doesn't matter. It matters a bit.
It matters only to few women. Only girth matters. It's length that
matters. Only technique matters. Only love matters. All penises are
almost the same size once erect. Women can't feel
the difference, it's all psychological. Size matters only among men.
It's only in your head,
you're immature."
For many men
who don't possess what women prefer, it is a matter of choosing
between two evils, either staying in doubt about their penile
adequacy and the importance of penis size, or being aware of the truth, which
is that they don't really have as much as women would like them to
have. In view of the fact that the same penis size related questions keep on popping up all over the
Internet, I am convinced that living in doubt is worse.
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A note to the psycho-therapist,
sexologist, sex-therapist and other know-it-alls reading this: Can't you just make it clear to these guys who are troubled by the size of their penis, that women are human beings also, meaning
that when they are sexually excited they want to be penetrated by a penis, preferably a rather large
one, just like a man wants a warm, juicy and tight vagina around his penis. It's sex after all; wild sensations in case you never had any.